Spirit Of LOVE

Tips Cheering Your’s Partner

Posted on: February 28, 2009

lovely-heartsWhen you are reading this, you will recall some of the pleasing and delightful behaviors that drew you to each other during courtship, or which were practiced during some happy times or even in crisis times. Select from this list, or one of your own, two or three cherishing behaviors you might be willing to practice.

-Call me during the day and tell me something pleasant.

-Ask me how I spent my day and for a few minutes give me your undivided attention.

-Fix the coffee in the morning so we can have a few minutes to talk before starting the day.

-Enjoy touching me.

-Sometimes turn off the lights and light a candle when we are having dinner.

-Find something humorous in your day to share with me.

-When you are out walking bring back a flower or a leaf or funny rock.

-For no special reason, hug me and say you like me.

-Offer to wash my back when I’m in the shower or tub.

-Tell the children (in front of me) what a good parent I am.

-Cuddle with me at night before we go to sleep.

-Ask my opinion about some TV program or world news event.

-Slip a surprise note in my lunch bag or under my pillow occasionally.

-Occasionally call me sweetheart or honey or dear or some word special to us.

-Hold my hand when we walk down the street.

-When we sit together put your arm around me or touch me.

-Look at me and smile. Remember a funny story you heard just for me.

-Get me the morning paper and let me read the main section first.

-Put on one of my favorite records or CD’s and play it without asking.

-Bring me a flower sometimes for no reason at all.

-Surprise me with something that tells me you enjoy being with me and seeing me happy.

-When you see me coming home, come to meet me.

-Give up some personal habit that you know bothers me (like smoking, swearing, etc).

When I had my private practice as a therapist and saw couples, the men always loved this list. I often assigned as “homework” a task for the couple to make a list of the things they liked and exchange it with their partner – then post it in the fridge and select at least one item each day to do. It was a great success.

No one can expect a relationship to maintain the same level of emotional, sexual, and romantic intensity that was present during courtship. But we can grow in love and consideration. A successful, happy marriage is made up of many small things.

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